You've consumed the 3-hour podcasts. Read the books. Your head is filled with vetting criteria. You forgot the basics: is she hot and is she available?
Book a CallAnd it's not what you think it is.
Before you even meet her, your head is filled with concerns. Will she be good for a second date? Is her height going to make sex awkward? This thinking kills your game.
You've adopted other men's boundaries. Maybe you don't care about things that bother them. But you've confused their standards with your own.
Your dream girl is a fantasy. Meanwhile, women who could make you happy walk past because you're hunting unicorns.
I often paid attention to older gentlemen in the red-pill spaces. They seemed at ease not out of skill with women but out of knowing what's important: is she hot and is she available?
This neuroticism about making sure a girl is perfect before you date her is a waste of time. It's affecting your game and ruining one of the best parts of life: hot women.
2 years dating aggressively in Dallas. Here's what actually matters.
There are good women. You'll probably have to make tradeoffs on looks, weight, debt, or ethnicity if you're being realistic.
The neuroticism kills your game. It shows up on the date.
Simple beats complex. The guys who succeed know what matters.
Your standards should be YOUR standards. Not what the manosphere says.
We have more access to women than ever. Yet men struggle more than their grandfathers did.
One call. Your specific situation. Clear next steps.
What do YOU want? Not what podcasts tell you to want. Then we check: are you positioning yourself to meet those standards halfway?
Stop killing your game before dates start. Focus on what matters to you.
Things that bother other men might not bother you. We'll figure out YOUR boundaries.
Based on where you are. Based on where you want to be. Not generic advice.
From guys who stopped spinning their wheels.
"Dude I was literally making spreadsheets of red flags. Had like 40 things to look for. Meanwhile I wasn't even going on dates because nobody could pass my checklist. We talked for 30 mins and I realized how stupid that was. Now I just ask myself if I'm attracted to her and if she seems available. Got a second date last week for the first time in months."
"I'd show up to dates already half-checked out because I'd spent the whole day before psyching myself out. Like oh she's 5'8" is that too tall, what if her dad has health issues, does she make enough money. She could tell I was weird. After our call I just stopped doing that. Showed up normal. It's night and day difference."
"Thought I had high standards but really I just copied what I heard on podcasts. Didn't even know what I actually wanted. We spent time figuring out MY preferences and whether I was even in a position to get that. Turns out I needed to move cities and get in better shape first. At least now I have a real plan instead of just complaining online."
"I was avoiding girls because they did things that apparently bothered other guys. Like she posts on Instagram too much or whatever. But I didn't actually care about that stuff. I was just scared of being judged for my choices. Now I date who I want. My friends have opinions and that's fine. I'm the one dating her not them."
"Was holding out for a girl who didn't exist. Had this whole list of ethnicity, body type, personality, career, debt level, all this shit. Meanwhile there was a girl at my gym who was into me and I ignored her because she didn't check every box. We talked about being realistic vs being delusional. Started dating the gym girl. We've been together 6 months. She's great."
Your dating life doesn't improve from more content. It improves from clarity about what you want and taking action.
Book Your CallNot a sales pitch. You'll get value whether we work together long term or not. The goal: help you see what's holding you back and give you a path forward. TRP is about you and you only.